I don't like the idea of a new normal, it sounds limited. Covid-19 has forever changed our lives, but what if we CHOOSE to be changed for the better? I LOVE what this journalist wrote:
"This is our chance to define a new version of normal, a rare and truly sacred opportunity to get rid of the junk and to only bring back what works for us, what makes our lives richer, what makes our kids happier, what makes us truly proud." -Julio Vincent Gambuto for Forge by Medium
I want an even better life. During this quarantine I've discovered the junk that was in my life that can be eliminated forever. I'm realizing the level of "busy" my family was at, was unhealthy. All of a sudden the competitive sports and efforts to raise superstar athletes, academics, and performers is no longer a priority. Instead I want to have a superstar family, one that is close, counts on each other, and puts others needs before our own.
I want to live a simpler life that is not limited by anger, bitterness, and past pain. We had a miracle on Easter. My dream has been to be able to celebrate holidays with my ex-husband's family, so we would not have to share holidays anymore. Since the kids are still going back and forth during quarantine we decided it was safe for us to gather together and do an Easter Egg Hunt and Brunch with him, his wife, their 2 young children, and together our 3 sunshines. It was a simple, yet very powerful momentum builder.
My new normal will be full of grace, putting aside the past and moving forward to what's best for my family. It takes more energy to be angry then to forgive, and yes time heals all wounds.
While we are stuck in this "cocoon" of quarantine your Brave activity today can be making that manifesto of the life that you choose NOT to go back to, and what you choose to move forward into.
3 Questions to Answer to Make your Manifesto
1. What has been eliminated from your life during quarantine that you are happy about and do not want to be a part of your new normal?
2. What new ways of life, activities, feelings have been added to your life that you want to continue? 3. What things did you take for granted before the pandemic that you will move forward appreciating?
Then, write your manifesto. Here's my rough draft. I keep adding to it! I think I will print it off and post it by my bathroom mirror.
1. "Moving forward I will make time together as a family unit my priority, refusing to say yes to unnecessary activities that take away from our time together. I will spend less money on superficial beauty routines that I can do at home and take money that I should instead be used for savings and family vacations. I will not allow negative and hurtful people any space in my heart or life. I will not allow competitive youth sports overtake our life, our schedule, and our bank account.
2. I will slow down, take time to check on old friends on the phone and make sure they are really okay. I will take a greater role in my children's education being involved in their learning and understanding what their teachers are trying to accomplish. I will take time to try new recipes and not rush through dinner with my family. My children will learn about saving money and having emergency funds for their future. We will play together more. I will check in and listen to their emotions and concerns on a regular basis.
3. I will forever appreciate my gym friends and learn their names and what is going on in their lives. I will never criticize or complain to my trainers at the gym and pump them up as much as they encourage me. I will do everything in my power to get teachers the supplies and support they need as they educate my children and never get annoyed when I get an email for asking for one more thing. I will say yes to teachers always. I will appreciate the freedom I have to sit in church, listen to worship, and appreciate the heart of my pastor who pours into my families life.
If you'd like to share please do! We can learn from each other. Email me your manifesto! firstname.lastname@example.org
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