Updated: Feb 11
Making this ONE simple decision today, is a giant step closer to living your dream life.
"Let's circle August 1st" -she said. My best friend Patty in Virginia challenged me to do that when I was going through my divorce. I became a single mother suddenly, when my ex husband came home one night from a business trip to Brazil and announced he was leaving the family. I was living in this tortuous limbo land of having no clue what my future would look like.
I had 3 kids under 4. They were 4, 20 months, and 8 weeks old. I was still wearing maternity pants. I just gone back to work from maternity leave the week before. The next year was a process of counseling to save things, and then finally realizing it was time to get a lawyer. Patty and I sat in my kitchen trying to plot my next step in life. I knew I couldn't afford our 6 bedroom home in Fairfax County, VA (one of the most expensive counties in America) on my part time radio d.j. salary.
So, we hatched a plan to get out. I've learned the hard way that when you are only focused on the end result of what you want, you can get so overwhelmed that you lose focus, and end up never moving forward. So, we just picked a date. She said, "how about August 1st?." That would be a year to the date that my ex-husband came home with his announcement. My oldest would be starting kindergarten in the fall, and I needed to be planted somewhere before then. I had 4 months to work on it. So, I got an old fashioned wall calendar and stuck it to my fridge with a big red circle around my date. Then, I started to work backwards.
Getting Your Brave On to get the life you want happens in small steps. Choose what your goal is and then work backwards. I would need a moving van, help packing, a place to move to, oh and a job. I contemplated moving back home, my parents even invited me to come and heal for a while, but I've never been a big fan of going backwards in life. Even if things look bleak, NEVER go back, ALWAYS move forward.
I made a list of all the things that needed to happen to move somewhere by August 1st, I put them in reverse order, and then started at number 1: Get a job somewhere. I put feelers out to all my radio friends, put together a demo, and started interviewing.
My second step was book a moving van. I called PODS and set it up, that way I knew I could not go back. One of the first thing they ask you is what zip code you are moving to. I had to tell them, I'd call them back and let know when I figured that out. OMG! I booked a moving van before I even had a place to go. I look back and am astounded by my own bravery. It wasn't all me, that's the secret of living a strong and courageous life, God promises He is WITH you. (Joshua 1:9). What happened next was unfathomable to me.
I got the call. I got hired for the biggest network in Christian radio. I was chosen to go live on over 400 stations from 8am-12p on K-LOVE radio. Isn't that just like God? He promises to do exceedingly abundantly above what we ask, think, or imagine (Eph 3:20). I just wanted a job, I didn't realize at my darkest moment God would give me my dream. The payoff was being able to call PODS and give them a California zipcode!
Then it set in... OMG, I'm moving across the country by myself with 3 kids 4 and under where I know one person, and have no family. What did I just do?! I got my brave on. If I had contemplated this massive move on the day that I circled my date on the calendar I would have paralyzed by fear. Instead, I took the steps, I worked backwards, and I was off and running. Do you know what day the administrative assistant booked our flight to move to California? August 1st!
My friends, it is possible to get the life that you dream about. I just takes the proper steps. Today, circle the date on the calendar that you want to accomplish your dream by, then work backwards baby, and watch what God will do with you.
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