You have every reason to be angry, but do you really want to be? This trick will help you BANISH it from your life . Anger can become a habit. We get so used to be angry at a person, or an event in our life, that we don't notice when it's over. We then attach the emotion of anger to the next issue, and the next person, because anger becomes normal to us.
All you know is "who you are currently angry at, or what you are currently angry about." That's your habit. I have lived there too my friend. I am not writing this to make you feel bad about yourself or judged. I am living this with you.
When I heard this at church recently I realized I still had anger from my divorce, that I have brought into other relationships. I don't want to be an angry girl! I want to be a grace girl. The kind of woman that is able to as Bob Goff writes,
"Give away unreasonable amounts of grace like it's the only size it comes in." -Bob Goff
How do you kick the habit of anger out? To kick it out, we have to practice a new habit. Instead of choosing to be angry about things that don't go away or people that mistreat you, choose to let it go. The more you choose grace, that becomes your normal! Just like bravery builds, so does grace.
Grace means, unmerited favor, God's ability to do in you what you cannot do on your own. For example, your ability to forgive. I figure if I freely accept (and sometimes beg) God for forgiveness, then I must give away freely what He gives to me. I don't want to be one of those Christian women that everyone expects will judge them. I want to be one of those Christian women that my friends run to for help in their time of need, and I can point them to their savior.
FINAL THOUGHT: The thing is, that person that you are so angry at, probably doesn't even know. They may not even remember what the fight was about. The only person our anger hurts, is ourselves. Let's be free. Practice the habit of grace.
"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured." -Mark Twain